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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2374

Beth
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This so sad Benji and Deb. I’m so upset for you both. We had our tragedies due to secrets and lies but there is always someone who has had way worse experiences. Mom was forced to hide what dad was doing to her because she didn’t want my uncles to kill him and take our father away. Mom…you have no idea how much I hated dad. He was evil. A devil. I don’t hate him anymore but I don’t care for him. When he found out my ex was hitting me he asked me what did I do to deserve it? He asked me if I was like my mom. He said if I was I was getting what I deserved. Mom…I told him to go fuck himself. I know it was disrespectful but his words cut me to the core. I no one and nothing was ever as bad as he is and was.

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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2375

Jimmy	We are going to meet her son. The whole family it’s happening after the meeting. I was going to tell you all while we were there but now that it’s out, yes…you sister had another child she didn’t tell us about. I get the feeling there is a reason why so I want you to be prepared. All of you.
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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2376

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Well you’ve all heard the stories about my first wife so you know I’ve been subjected to some damaging lies relationship wise, but I thing the worse were the work-related secrets, cover-ups and lies. Sometimes things went on that were befitting of our position and station. I mean we expect society to respect us and look up to us but some men and women in law enforcement don’t deserve to be admired or held in high regard. I’ve known officers who beat their wives and expect the rest of us to look away when it came to our attention. I refused to do it and I paid the price. I continued to do my job to the best of my ability and after a while officers who shared my belief warmed up to me. I was known to be the one that couldn’t be trusted and I was fine with that. I don’t want anything to do with officers who don’t live up to the duties they swear to perform. Over time I learned about several things that were swept under the rug. The officers were quietly let go and their victims were never vindicated. All I can say is there is nothing worse than a person in a position to uphold the law being the biggest law breaker. There is nothing more disheartening than witnessing and discovering this is going on.

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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2377

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I think Rod and I lived with the secret we didn’t really love each other for years. Neither of us wanted to be the first one to say anything but eventually we couldn’t hold our peace any longer. It hurt me as I’m sure it hurt him. I think we should have been honest with each other when it became clear we had grown apart but we remained silent for the sake of our children. I think there were many consequences, none of them good but it’s like we are discussing, this is what keeping secrets and basically living a lie does to you and those around you. I’m glad we handled maturely, and have since gone our separate ways into lives we are both happier in. Peace is a good thing. Oh and both of us thought we were missing out not being with the ones we felt we did love and we discovered we hadn’t missed out on a thing.

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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2378

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Damn bro…Benji I got you bro.

Tony…yeah…my nephew thinks I’m super cool and good-looking. I told him I get that a lot and he laughed. I told him he looks just like me and he blushed. He calls me all the time Tony. He’s a cool kid. I’m glad you reached out and decided to include them in your life. I don’t have any kids other than the ones I have with Tina. I insisted on Abortions every time a woman said she was pregnant by me. I took her ass to the clinic my damn self. You will not have leverage over me, ever. I did not give them a choice.

I’m an open book when it comes to myself. I don’t keep secrets because, what’s the point. I don’t think anyone has ever kept any damaging secrets from me either. You have to care that way for it to hurt you and…I guess I didn’t. I will say secrets are not only destructive but they can be deadly. I hate seeing what they have done to people I do care about now. Ben and Deb…I really hate this is all coming out now but better now than later. Give your father a chance and let the bad shit go. That’s how you survive.

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The Truth 6 years 2 months ago #2379

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It is more than clear that secrets are big fat ass lies and they do nothing but mess up the lives of innocent people. I know all too well how devastating this can be and I have to say Carmine is honest to a fault. He can’t stand liars and I don’t blame him. Secrets and lies tour me and my sister down and apart and finally we are trying to rebuild our shattered relationship. Deb and Ben…let you father in because him wanting to be in your life is a blessing. I didn’t have one good parent, you potentially do have a descent father. Let him love you and you two love him. Let him help you put all the pain behind you and in doing so perhaps your brothers can find peace in death. I think it will have them rest easier if they know they two younger siblings found what they needed to find. Is there a question that the man you all thought was dad is their father? I mean he was so mean to them perhaps they had different dads as well. Just know we are all here for your two and I really would like to meet your father one day.

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