Abuse creates disconnect. I know, it is my situation as well. Learning to function normally is a process but it is a condition that can be prevented by strict laws that limit the type of people allowed to be parents. I was punched, knocked out, slapped so hard it made me dizzy, suffered a concussion when I was 9, when I was punched numerous times waking up in a hospital with a black eye, swollen lips and a broken nose. I was nine, this was a beaten from my father because I wasn’t tough enough for him. He almost killed me. Mother G stepped in and removed me from his custody after that and I never lived with him again but the damage was already done. The first beating I can remember getting was when I was six and I didn’t want to eat Brussel sprouts he shoved the entire plate in my face broke the plate over my head shoved me from the table and when my mother threw herself over me to protect me, saving my life, because he wasn’t going to stop, my uncle stepped in (Mike Nico Mary, and Vic’s pop) and prevented him from beating both my mom and me to death. Mom sent Tony away after that and he wouldn’t allow her to send me away. I learned to suffer in silence, quietly dealing with his punches, kicks, and angry shouting. I hated him and yes he did cause my mother’s death, kicking her so hard in her stomach she lost the baby she was carrying and bleed to death because he refused to allow her to call for help. I was glad when he died and I don’t miss him. He was evil because he was not abused growing up, he was just a demon who enjoyed causing pain. So, I know all about disengaging, how it happens, and how it causes many problems in your life all of your life.
