I’d like to say I also loved Becca. We were friends and I was very upset when she died. She had a sweet side and she lashed out when she was really hurt. She was hurt because her father did not accept her and he did not accept her children. She took it out on them but deep down she knew it wasn’t their fault. Becca didn’t always know how to handle her anger so I agree with Karen, she needed and deserved help when she was young, then she needed her father’s love and support when she became an adult struggling with mental illness. Shawn, love you mother. In her way she loved all of you, she just didn’t know how to mentally handle. Understand she had a disability.
I know that using some of the substitutes in an attempt to take the edge off can and usually does sharpen the edges. It’s like putting a band-aide on a wound that needs stitches. I do hold women responsible for the harm and sometimes deaths of their children by the men they are involved with. I get sick of seeing children left with boyfriends come into the hospital with serious injuries caused by the boyfriend abusing the child while the mom is at work. I’m sick of woman acting like they don’t or didn’t know this man is or was capable of harming their kids. They knew they are leaving their kids in harms way. They just don’t want to take responsibility for their children’s safety. I think they should go to jail and face the same charges as the man who abuses or abused their kids. I told a woman last week she was responsible for what happened to her three old son. I told her she knew her boyfriend was a danger to her son and at first she tried to get angry but then she just sat down and cried. I told her that her son depended on her to protect him right now and that man wasn’t worth the life of her son. She stopped saying what happened to her son was an accident and told the authorities she believed her boyfriend was abusing her son. He was arrested and she asked her sister to help her move out while he was in jail. I was impressed and I was glad he sister nodded and agreed to help her.
We know what kind of person we are dealing with especially when we are intimate with them. I agree women need to stop needing literal verbal confirmation when we know in our hearts, and the none verbal ways things are communicated scream things are the way they are. Marc is right, stop denying responsibility for what is known in the heart.
I think fine tuning our senses is always a benefit and I’m certainly going to start working on fine tuning mine.