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TOPIC: Moments in our Memory

Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1459

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Good job Loreen.

I would have to say as I think about all the things that stand out in my memory from my past, the things that were life changing do resonate more. Meeting MG for the first time was significant for me. I learned what it meant to really love because she told us we mattered but no more than her other great grandchildren whom she hardly ever saw. I told her I thought she was my dad’s mother and she shook her head. She had a stern look on her face and told me she was his grandmother. She was nice to us but not our mother. She took us to her private rooms and showed us pictures of our half brothers and sisters and we learned to love them because she clearly did. She told our dad not to bring us back without her other great grand children and it made Dad cry because she had tears in her eye. He told us she never cried and he was really upset. I was drawn to Mikey and wanted to meet my brother. Dad never allowed that and I was badly affected because we couldn’t see MG or our brothers and sisters. I realized after a while it was mom who refused to allow it and she didn’t want to see MG again. I never looked at my mother the same way and I ended up in a bad marriage because I just didn’t know what to look for in a woman.

Meeting Mike for the first time and having him react to us the way he did hurt me so bad at first but when the whole story came out again I looked at my mother and blamed her for toying with our lives. Mike tearfully apologized and I tearfully reached for him and embraced him. It shocked him and confused him. I glared at my mother and he immediately understood and nodded. He kept his distance but Nick who immediately embraced us, told us all about him. He was in love with a woman of color and that was it for me. I wanted a woman of color like him. Meeting him and MG change my life in so many ways and meeting them stand out for me.
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Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1460

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I think many occurrences shaped the man I became. I was with my brother when we saw a man shot to death. It did traumatize me. For months I remember him standing, laughing and talking one minute, and laying on the ground bleeding the next. I decided I wanted to be a lawyer because nothing was done about the life that was taken. I remembered how upset his wife and four children were and I went over to help her as much as possible. I decided I would protect people like her and make sure that received justice.

We were also those kids who learned dad had another family he preferred to be with. I was devastated. It shook me to my core and I said I would never marry because I didn’t want to be the man my father was. I didn’t want to hurt women the way he did. I didn’t want to have children to hurt the way he did. I vowed to never fall in love.

I meet Sir Paul. He made my mother happy in a way I never saw her before, and it released me to love. I could not love until my mother knew what it was like to be loved. I was able to see the woman in my wife and I’m glad I was there when she found herself as well.
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Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1461

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So that’s what happened Eb? I always wondered what he did to you. He was a terrible husband and father that’s a fact. What affected me growing up was knowing mom was jealous of me and didn’t love me. She told me she couldn’t stand me because I was pretty, flawless. She would say things like she never wanted a daughter and she should have aborted me. It destroyed my self-esteem. Auntie saved my life when she took us. I think she knows it.

Then I meet Mason and the first thing she said to me was it wasn’t my fault I was beautiful. I crumbled and when she hugged me it was all right. Finally it was all right. She calls me beautiful to this day and I’m okay. It’s okay My husband tells me it’s okay too. I’m okay just the way I am. How did you know Mason?
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Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1462

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Growing up in the ghetto exposed us to many horrors but none were more horrific than what I saw in our home. I remember seeing my dad beat my older brothers so bad they would just be moaning when he finally stopped. One of my brothers stopped moving and he thought he was dead. We all did. Deb ran to a neighbor’s house and the police came but they didn’t care really. Dad went to jail though and the rest of use went to a shelter until our grandmother came for us. My mother and her sisters tried to blame Deb for what we were going through but Deb stood her ground. She told them she was happier with them being upset with her than she would have been if she allowed her brother to die. It shut them up and shut them down hearing a child say that to them. But she was forever labeled as mouthy and a trouble maker. I respected her and so did my brothers. She saved Gary’s life but the beating killed Eric. His soul. I watched the life leave his eyes. He was never the same after that. Before he played with me all the time but it stopped. Dad knew something died in Eric too. Eric wouldn’t let him touch me and Deb and swore he would kill him one day, and he did. After that he was ready for his body to die like his soul.

Mark changed my life. I was struggling to stay honest but life was kicking my ass. He gave me a job, gave me a chance. He saw me, inside me, and knew just what I needed. He made me the man I am today and the day I met him stands out in my mind and it will forever because the nightmares I suffered with left. I could see and wanted to live. I saw Mary and I love her at this moment as I loved her when I first saw her.
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Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1463

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I think finding my auntie and having her save my life is the first thing that I remember most. She loves me and I never doubt it. She took me in, got me the care I need, and I had a surgery that saved my life.

I also discovered I was homosexual at a young age I met a man online whom I still love and he did so much for me that shaped me into the man I am today. I will always love Damian.

Jay is my first true love and to this day he remains so. He is bisexual and I remain with my first true love to this day. Together we have four children and after so rough relationships for us both we are back together and I am whole.
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Moments in our Memory 6 years 11 months ago #1465

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Mike is MG’s second self. He is just like her. She stands out in my memory because she was a strong woman. But Alicia stands out too. She was a beautiful woman, everything our mother was not. She knew I was suffering and she took me under her wing. Mike came around and blamed his father and not us, but I like Chris blamed mom for refusing to allow us to have a relationship. I respected Mike right away like I’ve never respected another but Sir Paul. He screamed MAN and he isn’t even that big. But he is a Man in every way to me. Strong, Brave, and fearless. Meeting all of them changed my life for the better. Never witnessed domestic violence personally but knew people did. Never witnessed any violent act other than a brawl at a night club.

I, like Chris, married a nightmare that was my mother but finding our faith saved my life again and these are two of the moments in my memory that changed the course of my life.
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